I remember when I started dating, sex couldn’t have been better! Everything felt so wanting and felt so wild and free.
I would listen to some of my friends declaring how they loved their partners but did not feel as sexually attracted to them as before.
They would say how their sexual desires had gone way down and how they would force themselves every night to act like everything was okay but in reality, it wasn’t.
At some point that made me wonder how it could be possible to love and at the same time not feel sexually attracted to your partner.
Well surprisingly as years went by the unthinkable happened I came to find myself in the same shoes!
My sex drive started to wane; it went from hot sex and romance to a complete desert of deprived fulfilment. We used to do it daily but graduated to once every 3 weeks.
I must confess having different sexual desires with your partner can be very devastating.
Loss of sexual desires in women is very common and the saddest part it’s not like men’s complaints of erectile dysfunction, which can be medically cured. For women, you are not likely to get cured just by merely popping a pill.
So one day I thought, “Something had to change before it’s too late!”
I knew something had to change but didn’t know what to do.
I tried reading sex education books, listen to relationship advisors but nothing changed I still found myself struggling to bring back my sexual desires.
So one day I came across an interesting name on a book cover, which I ended up buying. That time I wasn’t that confident reading a romance book in public so I would read it in closed doors.
This marked the beginning of my love for romance novels!
The book was very interesting plus with time I found out it really turned me on in a major way.
So what did I do?
I would pounce at my boyfriend and give it to him like never before!
Sex started to be great again. I remember reading about something then it hit me, “hmmm wow I like the idea, I think I should give it a try.”
When my boyfriend figured what had brought about the change he didn’t mind, he would tease me and we would laugh and keep on.
With time I became completely open-minded about the romance novels and was thankful that it rescued my sinking relationship.
One thing I came to learn and tell most of my friends is that, even if you think your sex life and your relationship is great, it is not always going to stay that way forever.
You need to find ways that would spice up and add some excitement to your relationship. There are many deeper and greater ways that would really help you in improving your relationship, which does not necessarily mean changing sexual positions but so much more.
Surprisingly enough just as books are an amazing source of knowledge, reading such novels helped me download the knowledge and the ideas of others and upload them into my brains.
Whether you feel you are extremely confident in bed, there is always a great reason why you should be open minded and be willing to learn more!
This would make your future experiences better!
The following are 5 lessons I have learnt from reading romance novels that you may be missing out big time!
- Sex is more than just physical.
Our sexual connection runs deep inside and hits us at our most vulnerable!
There is always an emotional connection whenever you are intimate with someone, therefore you should be careful who you sleep with.
The connection is usually so much stronger than the physical.
Romantic erotic novels helped me to discover how to connect emotionally with my partner and be able to reciprocate it in bed.
- Communication in the bedroom is key.
Experimenting with different things in bed can be good, however, if you feel uncomfortable with some you should always say so.
The new ideas may be great but as soon as you begin feeling nervous, you have to put a stop onto that and a good partner will appreciate and respect your honesty.
- There’s always something new to try.
Having said that (point 2), this does not necessarily mean that this should be the end of your ideas, No!
The sex world is full of different new positions and styles, all you have to do is go and explore them!
- Learn to embrace your inner freak!
This includes the good, the bad and the weird. You should own every fantasy that you have ever imagined!
Trust me freakiness won’t send your partner running, but instead, it will make him stay glued to you since it makes everything in the bedroom to be more enticing!
- Sex is not just about orgasm!
For women, sometimes sex feels so good without an endgame!
There should be no race to an organism, take it as a journey full of pleasure and sensation.
Most of the time when a man focuses on making his woman orgasm, a very high probability she won’t.
But when you slow down and focus on your partner’s sensations, you will both relax and be able to enjoy every single bit which may lead to an intense orgasm.
Well as I conclude, I would like to say this 2019 I nominate Sam Crescent & Stacy Espino to join the list of my best fiction, erotica, romance authors!
I have been reading one of his book series Killer of Kings and if you haven’t read it yet, you are really missing out.
Below is a short book review of the eBooks in this series, trust me they are very interesting!
- Hard to Get.
“Shadow keeps to himself, never mixing business with pleasure. Business is killing. Pleasure is the girl next door”
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- Claiming His Prize.
“He never planned to take her…
There was something about the waitress with the black eye. She made him remember where he came from, and he knew he couldn’t stand back and do nothing.”
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- El Diablo.
“Is the devil capable of love?
Can a killer fall in love with his cleaner, or will he add her to his hit list?
Xavier doesn’t do trust. He breaks. He kills. After living through hell, he’s transformed himself into El Diablo, the baddest motherfucker around.
His only weakness is the sister he lost as a child—the one Boss promises to help him locate. The only catch is he has to work for Killer of Kings and learn to play nice with the other hitmen. He does his job, determined to prove himself.
Then she walks into his life, and nothing is ever the same.”
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- Taking Her Innocence.
“With the odds against them, and death waiting around every corner, can they find true love in each other? Or is Viper only interested in taking her innocence?
Viper has always been a bastard, a nightmare, death for hire. He’s known for his swift kills, so he isn’t surprised when he’s offered seven figures for a new hit.
It’s supposed to be a quick find and eliminate. When his mark turns out to be an innocent twenty-year-old with big blue eyes, he shouldn’t care one way or another—but he does. Viper wants to keep her for himself.”
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- Broken Bastard.
“No mercy. No pity. No women.
Bain has always worked solo, refusing to allow anyone to lord over him. His life has been fucked up enough, and he’s learned trust comes with a price.
Scarlett struggles to move up in a career where appearances are everything. She wants to hate Bain but finds herself intrigued by his story. Is it the reporter in her wanting to know more…or the woman falling for a broken man?”
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- Charming Asshole.
“He’s a killer. She’s raising his son. He’s coming back for both of them.” What will happen?
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